Ok, so we have been dealing with the bullying - again. Same girl, same ole stuff. Name calling, making fun of Clara, making fun of us, bringing other people in on it, humiliating and embarrassing Clara, etc...
In October, I can't remember if I wrote about this here or not, but in October, the school was brought in on it and they had Clara and the bully sign a no contact contract. This contract states that they are not to speak to each other, they are not to migrate toward each other, they are not to have any form of contact even through other people. They both signed and agreed to this, with the understanding that if they violate the contract, they will face consequences that could lead up to expulsion and a court hearing.
The bully doesn't care, obviously. On Halloween night she tried to come to my house to speak to another child that was in our driveway with Clara. I had to stop the bully and remind her that there was to be no contact.
I made sure when I enrolled Clara in school, that the administration knew of this issue and that they did not put Clara in any classes with the bully. They honored my request except that Clara and the bully have Orchestra and even though it's in different class periods, they have to be in the same room for big rehearsals.
This past Monday, 11/28, bully sat next to Clara with just one child in between the two of them. Bully kept whispering hateful, nasty things to Clara over and behind the middle child. When bully got up to leave, she purposefully hit Clara in the arm with her music stand.
I wrote a letter and sent it to every Principal and teacher that I could think of that would be involved with Clara in any way. Everyone responded positively, except for one Principal who was visibly peeved by me and my concerns.
I asked for a copy of the contract that the girls had signed and asked that it be sent home on Wednesday afternoon. It wasn't. So I wrote them back to let them know how upsetting that was for me. Again, not being rude, just trying to figure things out and letting them know where I sit in all of this. Again, her reply e-mail was defensive and she was obviously offended by me and my words.
I told them I would be at the school this morning around 11am, and the guy Principal was very nice, patient and understanding..he welcomed me in to talk to him. No issues.
So I got there this morning, and interrupting their day and schedule, he was so nice and willing to talk to me and not only talk to me but to listen to me too. She was not as polite and was visibly irritated with me and my concerns and it was VERY apparent that she was taking it very personally. She was huffy and defensive, for absolutely no reason. The only thing I can come up with for an explanation of her inappropriate attitude and serious lack of professionalism, is that she is either friends with the family of the bully or she was the bully in her childhood and she doesn't like my take on "her". Because there was no other obvious reasons for her attitude toward me at all.
Clara's teacher even came in, the one who's classroom this took place in and we were able to speak as adults and work through everything, and he helped to ease my mind, which is all I needed and really wanted. And he assured me again that he would not allow anything else to happen on his watch. Which I appreciated very much. Good guys. Rotten woman.
She was trying to find inconsistencies with my side of things, she was misquoting my e-mails, claiming that I had left information out or given misinformation, which I hadn't. She was visibly annoyed by me, which I found hilarious. I don't care if she likes me, are you serious right now lady? LOL For anyone to be so upset by a mother voicing her concerns and explaining what has been going on, makes no sense to me. She can go kick rocks.
But I hope it is handled and taken care of now, anyway. And I am so very grateful to the guys who remained patient and kind and understanding and who were so helpful and professional this morning. You guys rock!! :) That's what school staff is supposed to be.
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